My husband and I have been married 2 years. I’m 21 and he’s 25. I’m getting ready to graduate from college and he graduated a couple years ago. He has a good, stable job and we just bought a house and live comfortably off his income. I stopped using the pill in April ‘08 and we started trying last September. I have told two people that we’re trying. We don’t talk about it with our families b/c it’s none of their business and whenever we visit my parents, my mom lectures me about how I should be 25+ before I have kids or I’ll ruin my life. She had me at 21. I guess I ruined her life or something.
So anyway, I’m getting my mom saying "Go back on the pill! Don’t get pregnant!" and then on the other hand, I have my two friends giving me every bit of unsolicited advice they can. I know, I know, nothing beats personal experience. But I have read SO many books, articles, medical journal articles, etc. about pregnancy & health. My one friend, who we’ll call Jess, bugs me about every little thing I do…
I vacuum with carpet powder (with a new, hepa filter vacuum, mind you) and she’s harping me about breathing it in.
I get ice cream from Sonic and she’s going on and on about all the preservatives and hormones in the ice cream.
I take a Claritin D for my allergies and she’s chewing me out b/c "that’s so bad in case you get pregnant!"
I don’t want to lose a friend here. But seriously, I’m NOT pregnant. I tried the whole "live like you’re pregnant while TTC" thing for 6 months and it sucked. I deprived myself from doing normal things for no reason whatsoever. No baby to show for it lol. What would you do with unwanted advice?
